#KINK CHECKLISTS HOW TO#

A lot of things I said yes to aren't specific to a QPP, I have mostly the same conditions for friends. This is in a spoiler to compress the page. marriage: yes, also has tax and legal benefits Having sex of any kind with my partner : i don't really want to My partner doing sexual things with someone else: maybe My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: maybe My partner having other romantic partners: maybe My partner having other platonic partners: maybe? Me having other platonic partners: maybe? If swimming, sure.īeing fed by my partner: if I'm unable toīeing called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): maybe Other affectionate touch in public: probably notĬrying on: yeah, but I tend to avoid crying in front of othersīeing cried on: yeah - same as hugging, it's a comforting gestureīathing together (with bathing suits): no? I'm interpreting this as washing. Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: no Hugging: yes - mostly as a comforting gesture or goodbyes and hellos Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): meh preferably not If my partner's heart is set on it I'd consider.Īnyone else? Super curious how others responds! Raising children together: most likely not. “Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yes Either way I don't truly desire any of it) Having sex of any kind with my partner : maybe (some things I can enjoy, most things I cannot.

Touching my partner sexually: preferably notīeing touched by my partner sexually: maybe Me doing sexual things with someone else: no My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no My partner having other romantic partners: no My partner having other platonic partners: no Other affectionate touch in public: maybeīathing together (with bathing suits): noīeing called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): yes Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: yes Some of the questions are a bit odd but I love the concept. Hard limit means you will never, under any circumstance even consider doing this.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a cane.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a crop.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a flogger.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a hairbrush.Īcts in which one partner is beaten hard.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a paddle.Īcts in which one partner is beaten softly.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a hand.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a strap.Īcts in which one partner is beaten with a whip.I found this online and thought it'd be fun to give it a shot and see how others respond! It's basically a checklist for what you'd be okay with doing with a partner as an aromantic. Soft limit means you generally will not do this, but you might in the future or if the stars are right. Limit: Things that you DO NOT want to do/to have done to you. You hate this but will put up with it for your partner.

You dislike this but will put up with it for your partner. You can take this or leave it, but will probably do it for your partner. This is something that you can't see yourself enjoying a scene/date/relationship without. Maybe you're never tried this, or only once, and want to experience more before deciding how much you like it. Notice that even 1 here means you are willing to do it.

Rating: How does/might this feel to you? Use the chart below as a guide. Tried: Have you tried this? Tick the box for Yes. (In the examples above, you would be delivering the Whipping, or serving your partner a Massage.) (As examples, here Whipping would refer to you being whipped, while Massage would mean you're the one on the table.)ĭone to/for Others: Read this as how you feel about having someone else receive this act. Remember, it's just a beginning to negotiation, not an end in itself.ĭone to/for Self: Read this as how you feel about being on the receiving end of the act. Take it as a blessing in disguise - a bdsm checklist is only supposed to get a conversation started.

#KINK CHECKLISTS HOW TO#

A sincere effort has been made here to reduce this kind of confusion, but bdsm checklists will never be perfect enough that you won't probably have to go to your partner and confer about how to answer at least one item. there is usually confusion over fetishes that aren't physically interactive between partners or over activities that may not clear as to who is giving and who receiving. When we try to fill them out as Tops, Bottoms, Dominants, Submissives, etc. BDSM/Kink checklist BDSM/Kink electronic checklist Based on the CEPE (Columbia Erotic Power Exchange) printable checklistĬhecklists are frequently difficult to complete due to the complex variety to what we enjoy.

Kink checklists